I like a girl...but......(Warning: Long Read)

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Post by Magician22773

Note - I also dislike the idea that you would draw an analogy between finding a girlfriend to shooting a deer for fun. That comes close to a controversial claim made by a Muslim Sheik in Australia that girls dressing in crop tops and short shorts is like uncovered meat to dogs. Just saying, not a fan of it.

I really don't want to derail Sold's thread, but I HAVE to reply to this.

If I really have to spell out why I made my analogy, I will.

The fun of hunting, for me, has to do with the preparation.....Dressing in the right camouflage, finding just the right spot, and spending time with others. The end goal of bagging an animal, (which yes, not only do I eat, but I also donate an average of 200-300 pounds of meat every year to charity), is not only required to make hunting enjoyable, but I noted that if it comes to easily, it spoils the fun.

Now, to translate that to dating. The fun is in the experience. Dressing nicely, choosing a location that not only has potential woman to meet, but that you are comfortable being at, and that has the right kind of women, and enjoying yourself while seeking that relationship....all correlate to my analogy. Being prepared to not find someone every time you go looking, but still getting back out there the next time, and not going for the first person that comes along....waiting for that perfect trophy, so to speak, all are analogous between the two.

I have to really wonder if you are actually so thick that you really think my story, and your analogy to a sexist, extremist's remark about women are actually related, of if you just are so opposed to hunting that you pulled the most extreme example out of your rear to make a point.

FWIW, I actually respect, even if I disagree, with vegans that oppose hunting. But I cannot understand, at all, those like yourself that eat meat, yet condemn responsible hunters. I guarantee you, as a hunter, I am more respectful of the animals I hunt and kill for food, than ANY commercial meat processing plant and cattle farm is.

Post by ElhonnaDS

@ Sold - I have a question, and I hope it doesn't come off as flippant, because I want you to seriously consider it.

Your description of your memories of her were that they were vague, and that you couldn't recall if you still had a crush on her by grade 9 or not, but it didn't last long. You also said that during the time where you actually knew her, and believed she wanted to date you, you fell for someone else. So it seems that when you actually knew her well, you were only mildly interested, but now that you have forgotten a lot about her, and had very little idea about what her life was like now, a photo of her made you fall in love?

Also, the way you said it happened was that you had stopped thinking of her, but had developed an interest in love and couldn't get love off your mind (your exact words). And then you went through your high school year book LOOKING for someone, and found her, who you had stopped thinking of, and felt that you were in love with her.

If you only had these feelings for her after your memories had faded, after another girl was out of the picture, and after years of no contact, or minimal contact, how much of these feelings were actually based on who she really was vs. being based on the idea that the was a shot at having someone at all? Especially if you discovered it after you "couldn't get love off your mind," but weren't thinking of her specifically until you saw her photo and remembered she existed.

And once you discovered she wasn't a prospect (about 4 days ago), the love went away. In my experience, when you're really emotionally invested in someone, it doesn't usually turn off that easily.

Looking objectively at all of these factors, do you think that maybe some of what I'm saying might be true? I'm not trying to be mean, or discouraging, but the ways that you are telling us you are responding or wanting to respond, and the level of importance and emotion you're placing on these interactions after years of no contact, or a first message on a dating site, are not going to get you where you want to be. I'm just asking you to take a step back, relax, and ask if logically you know enough about these people for their responses to be such a big deal. If you can try to keep your intensity down a bit in the stages before you have anything to be intense about, it will help you not scare girls off.

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Post by Squishalot

If I really have to spell out why I made my analogy, I will... I have to really wonder if you are actually so thick that you really think my story, and your analogy to a sexist, extremist's remark about women are actually related, of if you just are so opposed to hunting that you pulled the most extreme example out of your rear to make a point.

I think you missed the point. I understood your analogy, which is why I spent two paragraphs addressing it. I'm now actually more disappointed that you decided to ignore the main point of my post, which is that not everybody enjoys what you happen to enjoy, and that you had to resort to a petty personal attack about how thick I am.(##RESPBREAK##)8##DELIM##Squishalot##DELIM##

Post by Gone

Sold if you don't mind my asking what is your situation right now? Like are you working, or in college at all?

Unemployed high school graduate, still living at home, trying to get work but I have difficulty since employers don't like that I show a lack of enthusiasm, at least that's what the last interviewers told my job-finding program. They're helping me get a job by going to employers for me, trying to skip the interview phase because I'm godawful at first impressions apparently.

If you really want to meet girls you should think about taking a few college classes, makes it a lot easier, plus being able to do something positive makes anybody feel better about themselves.

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